Accept your spouse as a gift from God. Choose to see them as that, not as an enemy, not as a burden, not as someone who you quarrel with. The deepest truth about them is that they are a gift to you, and you are a gift to them.
Also, expect that God will speak to you through them in ways that confound you in the present, but that turn out to be wise. Don’t believe that God can’t or won’t speak through them.