How I want to be treated

In the sermon on the mount, Jesus sums up the law and the prophets. 

Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.

Matthew 7:12

This got me thinking, what do I want other people to do for me? How do I want to be treated? These are some ideas. 

  1. I want to be loved completely and unconditionally.
  2. I want to be loved with a love that transcends my failures, a love that is able to disassociate my failures from me.
  3. I want to be deeply known and deeply loved. 
  4. I want to be taught and corrected by people who love me, want my good, and want me to thrive.
  5. I want to be confronted with the truth with gentle, gracious, passionate, and unyielding love.
  6. I don't want to be lied to for fear of hurting my feelings.
  7. I want to be cared about enough to be told and helped when I am unknowingly trapped by some evil or believing some lie.
  8. I want to be pursuing God alongside others whose zeal is equal or greater than my own.
  9. I want to be treated with loving patience when I fail again and again.
  10. I want to be encouraged to continue pursuing God when I am weary and discouraged.
  11. I want to be celebrated for who God made me to be.
  12. I want to be challenged by those who are both stronger than me and want to see me grow.
  13. I want to be tasked with meaningful work that requires the full exertion of my strength, but not by someone who doesn't care about my good, and not work that will crush me because it is too much.
  14. I want to be asked hard questions by those who love me. I want the truth about who I am to be drawn out of me with grace and love.
  15. I want others to invite me to be thankful and rejoice with them for the good and beautiful things that God has made and done.
  16. I want people to ask me how I'm doing and want a real answer because they care. 
  17. I want people to think about what would make me happy and do it. 
  18. I want to be depended on, and to be able to depend on others in a way that is full of love and not transactional.
  19. I want others to be for me. 
  20. I want others to share their real selves with me.
  21. I don't want to be given up on, even if I am being difficult.

Inverting these, we get how Jesus says I should treat others.

  1. I should love others completely and unconditionally.
  2. I should love others with a love that transcends their failures, a love that is able to disassociate their failures from them.
  3. I should seek to know others deeply and love them deeply. Neither my love nor my desire to know them should waver when I discover some deep fault of theirs. I should speak up about my desire to know them and my commitment to love them. 
  4. I should teach and correct people out of love for them, desire for their good, and desire to see them grow.
  5. I should confront others with the truth with a gently, gracious, passionate, and unyielding love.
  6. I should not lie to people for fear of hurting their feelings.
  7. I should care enough about people to tell them and help them when they are trapped by some evil or believing some lie.
  8. I should be the person pursuing God with zeal in order to be an encouragement to others.
  9. I should treated others with loving patience when they fail again and again.
  10. I should encourage others to pursue God when they are weary and discouraged.
  11. I should celebrate others for who God made them to be.
  12. I should challenge those weaker than me out of a desire to see them grow.
  13. I should task others with meaningful work that will require the full exertion of their strength. I should care about their good in all this, and should also not task them with work that will crush them.
  14. I should ask hard questions to those I love. I should draw out the truth of who they are with grace and love.
  15. I should invite others to be thankful and rejoice with me for the beautiful and good things that God has made and done.
  16. I should ask people how they are doing and want a real answer because I care.
  17. I should think about what would make other people happy and do it.
  18. I should depend on others, and invite them to depend on me in a way that is full of love and not transactional.
  19. I should be for others.
  20. I should share my real self with others.
  21. I should not give up on others, even when they are being difficult.