Ways to love Christian brothers and sisters

  • Embrace people who are different from you. Embrace the elements of people's character that are different from yours. Expect that God has something for you in that.
  • Pray for them. Ask for good things for them, blessings from God. This is always an option and is a good indicator of your true heart towards someone.
  • Be patient with difficult people
  • Forgive people who hurt you
  • Pour into their life even if you are not pursuing them romantically (don't only do this for people you are hoping to start a relationship with)
  • Have buoyant hope for them, that they would grow in their faith.
  • Serve them without any expectations. 
  • Confess your lack of love to the Lord
  • Ask for the spirit's power to love
  • Fight to believe the truths of God and what he has done for us (here the spiritual disciplines can be helpful)
  • Seek to see the glory of the Lord. This will transform you. Again, here the spiritual disciplines can be helpful
  • Remember that Christian love grows over time
  • Remember that nothing is impossible for God, whether you lack faith in your own strength or the strength of another.
  • Ask for the power to love and serve
  • Make X the focus. Talk about how good he is, how worthy he is, spur one another on to seek him
  • Reconcile with anyone who you need to. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 
  • Care for and serve them in a way they can appreciate (learn what makes them feel loved and cared for and do it)
  • Desire them to love God more than they love you, and pray to that end
  • Encourage and build them up in their ministry and in the gifts that God has given them